Not only surrendering unto the Lord and also surrender unto his devotee, devotee of devotee of devotee or das ‘dasadasanudasanudas’ as one becomes then Lord, that person attracts the attention of the Lord and he becomes the fit candidate to receive the benediction of the lord
The spiritual sky is prem, the shadow of that is kaam in this material existence. So more we get prem, more we get free from kaam, free from lust.